The surfacing of the wounds we share. Its been palpable. That which is screaming and to be healed among us, within us. The painful histories we, individually and collectively have been carrying, hiding, trying to forget, yet that show up in countless other ways further exacerbating and relocating the hurt.
When we are unaware of our wounds, everything is impacted. From the beliefs we hold, the relationships we choose, the behaviors we engage in, to how we view ourselves in the world and those around us. If we are operating as a victim, others generally pose a threat to our security and to feel safe, we build a wall around our heart, existing in a state of fear. Conversely, if we have taken the position of martyr, we are likely to act in ways that attempt to control, neglect, dominate, abuse or demean others. In either case, disconnection from the flow of compassion and the ability to see ourselves in another is obscured.
As greater awareness of our collective hurt arises, and its need to be tended to, a reflection of our inner landscapes can be found. As daunting of a task it may seem, if we want to to see healing in the larger picture exist within, we must start with our selves. We must look at our own triggers and our maladaptive coping mechanisms. We must get honest with the darkness we thought we could wish away, and hold space for it all the while.
To start the journey, can be as simple (though not necessarily “easy”) as saying "yes". "I am ready to get to work". What we will find as we step into intentional healing is that we will pave a new path of possibility and perspective, and ultimately we begin to shift our inner and larger reality. The path will look different for everyone, and that’s ok. Most importantly it’s about getting really willing to listen and be present in the process, and see what calls to you in forms of support and guidance.
As we individually heal, what collectively we see (and even if unseen, trust that is happening) is a bigger picture of healing that comes into focus, though similar to a Herxheimer reaction (also known as a “healing crisis” / when the body gets worse before it gets better), it will be uncomfortable and painful. We very well will want to give up. Yet as we tend to these tender places and bring them to the light, a history of trauma can be released and cleared for future generations to come.
When we acknowledge both the reality of pain and the possibility of healing, when we begin to see our role as beings together on the path of discovering our inherent wholeness, no matter how far off track we have gotten, we can see we are all here for the same journey, together. From this point of recognition, we can honor the lessons and make manifest, the deep yearning in our souls.
Just as a pebble thrown into a lake creates a succession of ripples extending beyond its initial place of contact, our relationship to our pain and our willingness to see it, and bring it to the light, affects the whole body of water that we exist in. And as we get free, we support others to do the same.
It’s not an easy task. To choose healing and stand in love, but it’s our right, our purpose and it has the power to change everything.
Love and blessings,